Don’t Chicken Out

“I didn’t realize it at the time, but looking back I can see that I used my family and my jobs and everything else I could come up with as excuses. I kept myself ridiculously busy because I was afraid if I had any extra time, I might have to look at the fact that I’d chickened out on living the life I was born to live.” -Claire Cook

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  1. Abby Benoit
    Abby Benoit says:

    This is the first one of your posts that I am not wild about. Maybe it is too out of context and besides I don’t know anything about Claire Cook. But I do not like the idea that my children and my marriage were not part of the life I was meant to live or that they or I let them keep me from doing something more notable. I understand what she is trying to say but seeing it said strikes me as shallow. I believe what we have done and how we have lived is what we were meant to do and perhaps the regrets are just ego. I don’t like it when giving children a secure home without the threat of divorce is diminished. I guess I shouldn’t get started since I don’t even know who I’m arguing with. Hmmmmm. I’m on ACIM lesson 5&6: I AM NEVER UPSET FOR THE REASON I THINK & I AM UPSET BECAUSE I SEE SOMETHING THAT IS NOT THERE.

    Now that’s synchronicity for you. I wonder where and why that upset came from..

    • awritersalchemy
      awritersalchemy says:

      Abby, your comment is a fascinating meditation in itself. I don’t think that CC meant that her family wasn’t worth it, just that she didn’t need to use them as excuses for what she didn’t accomplish. Well, you seem to have gotten that, too. I realized a couple of years ago that it wasn’t my husband and kids who were holding me back, it was my BELIEF that they did, that held me back. Thanks for making me think through this.

      On Tue, Jan 6, 2015 at 9:44 PM, A Writer's Alchemy wrote:


  2. Carolynne Harris
    Carolynne Harris says:

    Yes, that was a thoughtful response Abby. I used to blame my family for holding me back too and then I realized I was the problem, it wasn’t the chickens. Claire Cook is very funny and has a blog she wrote a book that became a movie – I watched it but can’t remember the name.. hmmmmmmmmmmm

  3. awritersalchemy
    awritersalchemy says:

    Interestingly enough, Abby’s comment has been percolating for me all week. I think she may have put her finger on the central problem of my life, which is that feeling that I am not doing enough or “the” right thing.

    Have you seen the movie About Time with Domnhall Gleeson and Bill Nighy? You should.


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