At my 3-day workshop in November I was given a handout called “What To Do When You Feel Stuck.” I have referred to this handout dozens of times in the last few months, and it has really, really helped. So I’m going to share it with you, in particular the 6 steps borrowed from Conscious Loving by Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks.
1. Say “I’m stuck” over a few times in your mind [I say it out loud, but I am out here in a cabin in the back yard where no one can hear me], listen to the tone of voice and ask: Whose voice is it? Where is it coming from, the front, back, or side of your mind? (no right or wrong answers)
2. How are you experiencing the feeling in your body? What are the sensations associated with being stuck? (e.g., knot in stomach, queasy, neck tight, pressure in chest)
3. What do these sensations remind you of? How is it familiar? With whom are these feelings associated? When in your life did they first begin?
4. What do you need to learn from being stuck? [I like to ask, “What’s my assignment?”] What message do you need to pay the most attention to?
5. What do you need to do about these feelings of stuckness? Do you need to talk with someone? Are there actions you need to take?
6. Who can best support you in attaining real freedom right now in your life? Who will be unflinchingly honest with you? Who will you be unflinchingly honest with? How can you get the support you want in becoming free?
If you have any tips to add, I’d love to hear them!